Thanksgiving 2014

Ya esta en el aire girando mi moneda…y que sea lo que sea

I am thankful to be here, in Maryland, with my mom and Sharon and Marinos and Kevin.
I am also thankful that I live in Seattle. Distance has given me confidence to start figuring out who I really am, and who I want to be. And how I want to be. And I am thankful for that.
I am grateful to be sitting with my best friend Jeffrey, and I am also thankful for my friends in Seattle: John, Ben, Quinn, Morgan.
I am grateful that I have a good job, a stable job. That my work is recognized by my peers. And I am glad that I usually can leave work at a reasonable hour, and do other things outside work.
I am grateful, that when I can’t leave work at a reasonable hour, even if I come home really late, there will usually be someone to talk to, someone to listen and to listen to.
I am grateful I am finding how to express myself better, less ashamed of being myself. I am grateful for LessWrong and the rationalist community, I am grateful for Non-violent communication, I am grateful for  improv, I am grateful for Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu.


I used to be so embarrassed, of everything. When I started practicing Non-Violent Communication, I was so scared my family would find out. Karen accidentally mentioned it, and I quickly motioned to her to not say anything more. Mom and Sharon each approached me separately later and asked me what was the course Karen said I was taking. I am ashamed that I made up some non-sense about eastern philosophy or something. But.
I am grateful I am now saying the truth.
It is hard for me to feel emotionally safe enough to be open, a lot of the time.


I am grateful for Karen. The way Karen really appreciates me for who I am, the way we talk and make each other think. The way we love each other and support each other. The way we kick ass together. But especially especially grateful for the way she hears me.


Ya estoy en la mitad de esta carretera…y que sea lo que sea


I am sometimes not grateful. I am sometimes full of other emotions, some “nice” and some “not nice”. All of them actual feelings I feel. and I am grateful I feel them. I am grateful for every moment I am alive, for every breath I take, even the times when life sucks.
And I am grateful that many of my friends also feel this way, and so are helping me create a holiday, a ritual for precisely this reason.


The thing I miss the most about religion is the rituals. The songs, the dances, the greater purpose. Ritual is powerful.
We, who live in the secular world, we have some good holidays. A holiday for expressing thanks, with a beautiful ritual where the whole family gets together and expresses gratefulness. and Isn’t that wonderful?
But there’s also darker parts to life, that need to be acknowledged. And that is the secular ritual I have been working so hard on with my friends, a Secular Solstice event, where we, as secular people can have a solemn, moving ritual where we consider how far humanity has come, and how far we still have to go.
How the universe simply doesn’t care about us, but that’s ok. You know why? Because WE care. There is light in the universe, and it is us. It is this. It is family and friends. It is caring and warmth, and food, and medicine and every other great thing people created that didn’t exist before.
And for all this, and a lot more, I am grateful.
Thank you.

Bug Night

I recently ran an Animal Suffering Documentary Night, that led me and many of my friends want to reduce how much meat we consume, in order to reduce animal suffering. If you’re not familiar with the tremendous amount of suffering that animals undergo in order for us to eat them, please watch this 12m short film, called Farm to Fridge

This post is not about that, however. After the documentary, I got together with my roommate Quinn and we decided to actually plan out a bug eating night, which is an idea we’d been talking about for a while, but had never actually acted on.

Let me give you some bug-related facts first.

1. Bugs are nutritious. Cricket meat has a higher percentage of protein than regular meat. Additionally, bugs have higher amounts of zinc, iron and other nutrients.

2. Bugs are efficient and environmentally friendly. Raising one pound of cow meat requires 200 sq. meters of land, whereas one pound of cricket meat requires only 15 sq. meters of land. That’s 170 times more efficient. Raising one pound of cow meat requires 2000 liters of water, whereas one pound of cricket meat requires only 1 liter of water. Finally, one pound of cow meat requires 22 bags of feed, whereas a pound of cricket meat takes only 2 bags of feed.

So as I was looking at these facts online, it became clear to me that the main reason we don’t eat bugs is because we think they’re gross. The ‘ewww’ factor. But actually, plenty of cultures around the world do eat bugs. There are 3000 ethnic groups documented that eat bugs, and over 1000 species known to be eaten by humans. The average household in Congo, for example, eats 300g of caterpillar a week. That’s a significant part of their meals.

In fact, my own culture, Judaism, considers 4 species of locust to be kosher. My first experience eating bugs was as a very religious teenager in Israel, during a [kosher] locust plague. Even then the main resistance I saw from other people was that it was gross (and some people tried to argue that it wasn’t actually kosher, despite what the talmud says)

So we decided to have a bug-night where we would get together as friends, and try out some bugs together and see if they really are as gross as we thought. At the very least we’d have a good time with friends. What it turned out was that we all managed to get over the initial fear of eating bugs and we found they actually tasted pretty good! Other than the amount of work it took to prepare (cooking for 14 people is pretty stressful), I think I could eat bugs pretty regularly. And many of the people present said the same.

Some quotes from my friends:
This is a million times better than I thought eating bugs would be.
My control group is not eating bugs right now.

Finally, although many of my friends came (we had 10 people come and 4 more that were unable to make it) I wasn’t sure whether I should post about this event on Facebook and talk about it openly with other people. Something I’ve been working on lately is deciding how much of myself and my weird interests (such as bug eating) to show to the world at large. I was mostly concerned that people would be more interested in telling me their opinion of what I’m doing than in actually listening to me about why this interests me as a topic. So I’m trying out writing it all out in a blog post, and then pointing people to this page as an experiment. I have never blogged before, so I’ll see how this goes and may post more things in the future, based on interest.
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